To Be Or Not To Be… More Than Friends


One of the most difficult decisions you could ever make is the one that moves a solid friendship onto the unstable foothold offered in a dating relationship. Before you even get into ways to approach a friend you have romantic interest in let’s talk about the risks and benefits.

Keeping your friend

Your friend is someone you can talk to freely and spend time with –someone who isn’t likely to walk out of your life in a heartbeat.

Losing your friend

Most relationships in your life will come to pass. It’s a hard, cold fact that makes the decision of dating a friend very difficult.

Understanding the risks

You are considering the option of sacrificing your friendship for something more – something closer. You could lose your friend forever.


Realize the potential

Relationships are strongest when bound together on the foundation of friendship. You already know and are comfortable with each other, so getting closer isn’t such a mind game. Most importantly, if you have a solid friendship, you respect each other. Respect is the missing element in dating in this millennial.

Falling in love with your best friend is inevitable, almost. No surprise there, because it is a challenge not to fall for a person when you spend a lot of time together and you begin to notice how intricately extraordinary the person is. Usually, the attraction starts unnoticed. People who see you together may notice it even before you do, and long before you admit it to yourselves. When you really ponder on it, you will realize how you do feel for your best friend. That’s when you know you’ve fallen for this person, and that you’ve fallen deeply and irrevocably. Falling used to be terrifying, but in this case, it is a delightful tickling sensation. After this realization, the next one hits you almost always right after. If you’ve fallen for your best friend and you decide to do something about it, is it worth risking your friendship for?

However, if you decide on not doing anything about your feelings for your best friend, you’ll always be wondering about how you two may have worked out. If you’re not up to asking yourself “What if..?” for the rest of your life, then go on and do yourself a favor. Give it a chance and take the risk. Of course, nobody knows how it’ll turn out. But always remember that love and friendship requires faith. And because you’re the best of friends, know that whatever happens, it’s worth the risk.

Vance Madrid

Freelance writer, lifestyle blogger, social media manager, events coordinator, scriptwriter, film buff, wanderlust and certified foodie. Zealous for a keyboard and new experiences, I wish to live and learn through my writing.