Whoever said that a chore is a bore is utterly mistaken. And those who have used the word “chore” to connote something negative or associated as something drab or even classified it as a useless activity to get done and over with, is in for a surprise. When it comes to chores, there is more than meets the eye. Chores, although seemingly ordinary actually have extraordinary worth when used as a means of building character. To be more specific, chores are a wonderful avenue for teaching children the important value of and love for work. Household chores encourage a sense of responsibility, independence, discipline, order, helpfulness and service. At the same time, the learning of a new skill and doing it well fosters confidence in the child. Also builds self-esteem since the child sees how he or she plays a valuable part in contributing to family life. Lastly, it allows children to concretely experience and learn the dignity of even the simplest kind of work. Here are a few tips to get your kids involved in household chores and reap its benefits:
The Power of Example
Actions speak louder than words. Do you happily whistle while you work or grumble and complain whenever you have to do some kind of household work? The way you work and your disposition towards it is a powerful tool in teaching your children about its value. Children are watching and learning the greatest lesson on work from you. Your example allows them to witness the dignity and value of even the simplest kind of work and the joy that comes with it. Whether it be as simple as wiping up spilled milk or doing repairs around the home, all household work is valuable.
Assign the Appropriate Chore to each child
Every child is different. Align he chore with the age and capabilities of each child. Take careful account of these factors when getting a child involved in a household chore. Assigning the appropriate chore to every child increases the chances of success at the task, maximizes its benefits, will make the task more enjoyable and makes the child feel more capable.
Break it Down
Your child has never done this task before. For some kids, it can be a bit too overwhelming, while for others, it might be something that they just jump onto randomly with no idea of where to begin or how to do it. In both cases, the task at hand would be frustrating for the child. Break the task into manageable steps and coach along the way. One way is to demonstrate each step and then let the child have a turn at doing it, or for younger child, you can just let the child assist you by handing things to you and watching you through the process. Another thing is to have child-friendly materials that children can easily handle and use.
Provide Opportunities for Success
For younger children it is important for you to be there to watch and guide them along the way. Help them to succeed in the task by showing them ways how to do it and even assisting them if need be. Work together as a team to get the job done. Make us of the time to bond with your child, exchanging smiles, jokes, or even talking to him about almost everything. That way, the little ones will associate chores with happy memories to look forward to and to look back at.
Make Chores Something That They Can Be Proud Of
Explore and explain how the work of each one in the family contributes to making the home a bright and cheerful one. Allow them to realize the importance of their contributions and let them see how their work contributes to family life. Lastly, it is equally important to recognize your children’s efforts of hard work and to express appreciation for their help by thanking them.