We have seen them. Children who have healthy self-esteem feel valued and accepted. They are ready for any upcoming challenges because they know in their heart, they could do it. How to raise one? PPST.Ph leads you the way.
Let kids do things on their own
As our children grow, many opportunities come as perfect chance to learn and develop self-esteem. Successful first steps, first time to hold a drinking cup, and even earliest time to sing ABC are just a few of those opportunities when our kids are the proudest and us parents the happiest. They have just mastered them on their own.
That is how to help our children have faith in themselves. Let them do things on their own. Of course, we are there to show them how to do those things at first, but for the remaining time, allow them to shine. Give praises when needed to encourage them. Praises, though, should be about their efforts and not the result of their work.
Focus on their strengths
Be sensitive and observant of your kids’ talents and skills. Know what they love best. Most likely, doing what they enjoy most becomes their strength. Nurture these strengths rather than finding faults on their weaknesses. They would surely feel good about themselves if they were able to showcase their talents especially to their parents. Why? Gaining their parents’ approval is very important to them.
Give kids the right to choose
Our kids have preferences. Give them choices within the set of options we’ve preselected. Those given the opportunity to choose would find making a decision a lot easier when they grow up. Also, it boosts their confidence that they are given the freedom to decide for themselves.
Nobody is perfect
Kids who are often expected to have a perfect score on quizzes, for instance, are inclined to be too competitive. Sometimes, they tend to be easily frustrated when they failed. It is prudent to remind our children that no one is perfect. But this does not give them the reason not to strive. As parents, we may remind them to give their best in every endeavor they face.
Every child has his own individuality. Comparing our children is a big no-no. We need to appreciate their own uniqueness and let them improve should there is a need. Comparison only results to low self-worth if the kid suffers criticism. Instead, encourage him for his qualities.
Listen to your children
Children, even at a young age, develop sensitivity. They could feel if we spend time with them and listen to their stories. They develop within themselves the thinking that “if someone listens to me, I am then worthwhile.” Make it a point to spend alone time with your children. Listen to their stories. In the process, you are building their self-trust that they are worthy of anybody’s time.
Avoid labels or calling children names
Belittling a child’s feelings brings harm than encouragement. Labeling him negatively only belittles his self-worth. He may begin to doubt his value and all he could think of is he is stupid.
Raise Your Child’s Self-Esteem
Parents, remember that self-esteem develops over time. It is also acquired. We may help our kids improve their self-worth. A positive sense of self is a great gift we could give our children. They would surely feel loved and appreciated. They see in themselves they are competent thus would eventually act, speak, and think with confidence. This confidence is what would bring them to happiness, contentment, and success. As parents, let us give this gift of confidence to them.