Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews

It is already close to midnight and your teenager is still not home.  As a parent, there may be a hundred questions running through your mind about your child’s safety.  To avoid such stress, one thing you’ve thought of to ensure your youngster does not lose track of time is imposing curfews.

Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews
Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews

A curfew, setting certain time for an individual to be home already, may be regarded by teens as limiting their enjoyment and space.  Thus, they may consider it as something negative and violate their freedom.  For the parents’ point of view, curfew, on the other hand, is about safety.  They may also consider it as a way to discipline their youngsters.  PSST.ph makes a rundown on properly introducing to teens the concept of curfew.  This way, the latter may understand and respect their parents’ decision, and for the elders to have their peace of mind.

Define expectations

It is prudent that before setting a curfew, each member of the family is on the same page – that they are having a curfew for safety, self-discipline, and respect or whatever reason you were able to agree upon.  Likewise, expectations should be laid clearly at the beginning.  This is to avoid assumptions, resentment even, and possible misunderstanding.

Make it clear, too, that everyone agrees with the set of time the teens should be home.  It is important, too, to know the friends he will be hanging out with and the activities they will be doing.  The place they will be going to is equally important to know, too.

Keep in touch

Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews
Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews

If your teen has a mobile phone, make sure he uses it to contact you of his whereabouts.  Make it clear, too, that he answers his elders’ call or text message.  To avoid the no-load issue, make sure your child has enough load to answer or make a call.

Give out consequences

From the beginning, all parties should agree that breaking curfew means punishment or penalties.  It may be a removal of privileges like no allowance for the day or no computer for the weekend.    Overly punitive consequences for a first-time offense may be deemed too controlling.  Thus, it is prudent that the disciplinary actions fit the wrongdoing and was agreed upon from the start.  Make it clear, too, that such punishment is not to control but to teach the child to be more responsible for his actions and decisions.

Enforcing teen curfews

Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews
Parenting:  Enforcing teen curfews

Curfew issues have been one of the biggest arguments between parents and teens.  As youngsters deem it as affecting their freedom and enjoyment, parents, on the contrary, are only after their kids’ safety and protection.  It is sensible that both define their expectations and respect the pact.  More than living harmoniously, the parents are able to guide their youngsters while the latter grow as responsible adults.

Berlin Domingo

Devoted. Compassionate. Instinctive. Berlin loves to write personal narratives, thrilling discoveries, and mommy tips that make daily living the happiest. She shares a place called the small house with her husband and their four boys.