Life Mistakes We Need to Forgive Ourselves for Making

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Nobody’s perfect. We all make mistakes throughout the year, even though we promise ourselves that we won’t keep doing the same thing. We want to be better each year, but sometimes it can be hard to figure exactly how to do that. Here are some mistakes we all should avoid repeating and we should forgive ourselves from doing.

Staying in your comfort zone

 It’s so easy to continue to do only things that we know will not hurt us. We need to realize that not everything is going to hurt us. Even if they do, it’s better to get hurt because you tried something new than to wonder what it would’ve been like.

Go out and try something you’ve always been too afraid to do. You never know what amazing things could come out of it. if you keep staying in your comfort zone, you’ll never know what it feels like growing–you’ll never know what awaits you outside of your box.

Comparing ourselves to others

We need to stop comparing ourselves to people who we will never be. There is absolutely nothing positive that can come from trying to be someone who you’re not. There is no use in trying to be anything besides the best version of yourself.

Compare yourself to only you because it’s healthy to desire to be the best version of yourself. Don’t look at models and wish you looked like them. When you see pictures of models in magazines, even the women in those pictures don’t look like themselves. There is no Photoshop in reality.

Putting yourself down

There are always millions of people ready to tear us down. We should not help them with that. If we aren’t on our own side, then who will be?

Who cares if you don’t look like the Photoshopped version of yourself? No one expects you to look like that besides yourself.

There are so many things about you that are gorgeous, but you have to be the one to believe that. If you constantly put yourself down, then how are you ever going to be able to build yourself up?

Relying on others for confirmation

This goes along with putting yourself down. You have to be the one who builds yourself up instead of kicking yourself down. You also can’t rely on other people to validate your thoughts and feelings, not only about yourself, but about your ideas about the world as well.

By relying on other people for validation, you are putting yourself and your emotions in their hands. No one should be able to have this power over you.

Regretting bad decisions

We all make dumb choices at some point in time. We are all human, and we are all going to do some things that we wish we didn’t do. Just because you made a decision that you didn’t like, doesn’t make you a bad person.

Every single bad decision you’ve ever made in your life is a part of your story and your history. The best part of your history is that it is in the past. Don’t give your past that much power and influence on your present. There are always better decisions to be made.

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Putting your trust in the wrong people

Trust is a very important, sacred thing. You can’t just give something that special to anyone. It’s time that you stop trusting everyone to be on your side. The reality is that not everyone in your life is going to be there for the right reasons. It’s just a part of life, and it says nothing about you.

Wanting to trust people is not a bad thing. It means that you’re open to new people and new experiences. It is a positive thing that people may choose to abuse.

Accomplishing goals for other people

The only person you should be accomplishing goals for should be yourself. These goals should be the ones that you want to accomplish. These should not be goals that others set for you.

What you really need to do is set goals for yourself and keep quiet about them. When you accomplish these goals, that’s when you need to clap for yourself.

This is how you’ll truly be able to gain confidence in yourself. You really grow as a person when you start achieving things for yourself instead of doing so because other people expect you to.

There is still plenty of time to make new mistakes in life along the way, but you’ll never get to experience them unless you try. These mistakes we make every year are easily erasable, and they aren’t going to be the end of the world.

Try avoiding these mistakes and see if your life improves at all from it.

Vance Madrid

Freelance writer, lifestyle blogger, social media manager, events coordinator, scriptwriter, film buff, wanderlust and certified foodie. Zealous for a keyboard and new experiences, I wish to live and learn through my writing.