Let’s admit it, most women can’t get enough of cuddling. It’s stereotypical, but there is a basis for the generality. Through clinical experience, psychologist and life coach Randy Dellosa, a woman’s need for intimacy (cuddling) post-sex and a man’s need to separate the two (roll over and go to sleep) that’s why some men hate it (cuddling).
According to Dellosa, based on Freudian theory, cuddling provides women with reassurance that they haven’t been abandoned and men, seemingly subconsciously, slink away as to avoid any obligation to care or provide for the woman. Eek!
Essentially, oxytocin is a hormone that has long been attributed to aiding in childbirth and breastfeeding. However, the hormone also plays an important role in how you feel. The higher your oxytocin, the higher your happiness. Recent studies have started proving that not only does this hormone make you feel happier, it also plays a role in other aspects of life — from social recognition to, yes ladies, orgasms.
Oxytocin is also a fairly easy hormone to activate. Interacting with others on social media like Facebook or Twitter leads to spikes in oxytocin levels. Even watching sappy movies will boost this “feel good” hormone. Touch, however, seems to be the best kind of interaction. Dellosa specifically recommends eight hugs per day — minimum.
According to some studies, cuddling also helps boost your immunity. Over four hundred healthy adults were exposed to a virus that causes the common cold. Some of these adults received hugs while battling their colds and, at the same time, monitored their illnesses. Those that received support and were given hugs were protected against developing an infection. It also seems the more hugs the better. Those who received greater support and more frequent hugs had even less severe signs of illness.
So, the next time your partner tries to wriggle out from your embrace, just tell him it’s for his health.
Cuddling can actually increase your libido so there’s good reason to snuggle up with your partner prior to getting it on. That said, dopamine isn’t the only chemical at work while you’re cuddling. Cuddling, holding, and sexual play releases chemicals, like oxytocin, in the brain that create a sense of well-being and happiness.
Is there really any reason not to cuddle?