You and your guy have a good bedroom groove going –some days are sweet, some are sweaty, some days you maybe even leave a few dents in the wall with all your headboard banging. But no matter how satisfied you are, you probably wouldn’t pass up the chance to kick things up a notch. Try these tiny little tricks that just might transform your sex life. (Yep, it’s that easy!)
Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to spice up a night on the couch. “Have him use his fingertips to slowly, gently caress your skin,” suggests Dr. Margarita Holmes, a sex therapist. “The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex.”
Keep your panties on
Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenager in you was on to something. “It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric,” says Dr. Holmes. “You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.”
Let’s be honest: Most guys are just grateful to be getting a blow job. But that’s no excuse to rest on your laurels. Rather than simply moving up and down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member. “Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you’re at the top, slide your whole mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion suggests sex therapist Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don’t Have Sex Again Until You Read This Book.
Give barely there kisses
Rather than simply making a beeline for his below-the-belt region, create a slow burn with featherlight kisses. Start by kissing his eyelashes, then the corner of his mouth, his jaw, and his collarbone. Next, kiss his nipples, under his pecs, and down along his treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the other. “You’re building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl,” says Altman. “And the randomness of your kisses keeps his nerves on high alert as his brain and body try to figure out where you’re going next.”
Bend it better
For greater stimulation in missionary position, try this: “Hook your knees over your guy’s shoulders,” suggests Dr. Holmes. “The angle puts more pressure on the clitoris, giving you a better chance of achieving orgasm.” Clench your butt and lift your pelvis to create more friction and make your climactic moment even more mind-blowing.
Get a little rough
Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner’s shoulders or earlobe. “When you’re in the heat of passion you may go more into your head than your body. A little pain snaps you both back to the moment.”
Blow hot air
No matter what position you’re in, you can enhance the experience by gently exhaling on each other’s skin. You’re already feeling pleasure in your genitals, but his move adds soft, steamy heat to other sensitive areas like your neck, your nipples, or the inside of your wrists, giving you tingles from head to toe.
Don’t take it all off
Who doesn’t love getting naked? Still, there’s something so primal about clothes-on-sex. While wearing a skirt or dress, get on the edge of the bed on your hands and knees. He unzips his pants, lifts your skirt, and has his way with you. It’s a spontaneous, must-have-you-now move.
Give a tug.
When it comes to his below-the-belt area, you’re probably more focused on the star than the supporting players. But you can make sex a heightened experience for him by stroking his testicles. Softly massaging the area increases blood flow to his pelvic region, increasing his arousal and sensitivity. Then, as he’s about to orgasm, gently tug on the loose skin around the ‘boys’ to amplify his big finish.
Go neck and neck.
You already know that your man’s neck is a sensitive spot—his little shivers and moans when you nibble at his throat should clue you in. Still, there are a few nooks that will elicit even more of a “yowza!” reaction. The line that runs from behind his ear down to the crook where his neck meets his shoulder is especially sensitive. You can lightly kiss other lesser-known hot spots as well, like along his jawbone and even the back of his neck.”
He may think he’s seen every trick in the book, but show him you’re still full of surprises with this oral sex move: While down south, slip your finger into your mouth and stroke him. “The unexpected texture makes it a pleasurable treat for him,” explains Dr. Holmes. The creativity alone will give him a rush since it’s something he’s probably never experienced before.